Black Sheep
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IMDB rating: 6.20 Plot: An experiment in genetic engineering turns harmless sheep into blood-thirsty killers that terrorize a sprawling New Zealand farm. |
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Actors: Meister Nathan,Feeney Peter,Davis Tammy,Driver Oliver,Chamberlain Matthew,Fenton Nick,Clarke Sam,Kent Eli,Blake Nick,Chapman Richard,Sutherland Louis,Harcourt Ian,Comedy,Horror,
Getting Married…IN LAWS DONT SEEM INTRESTED AT ALL NEED HELP?
So my boyfriend and I have been together for 3yrs now (know eachother four years this march) and we have two beautiful kids together recently we decided we want to get married, so were pretty happy and we want to try and do it all ourselves.. but his family doesnt seem to happy for us.
I know we arent extrememly well off but were doing fine and love makes a marriage work not money, when i told his sister in law we were getting married her response was "how are you going to be able to afford that?", i was shocked because i was hoping for something along the lines of congradulations (mind you me and here dont really get along she is a few years older than me, but she has never given me a chance to get to know her but thats another story). I try to not let her get to me, since im not marrying her. His mother on the other hand she had me change the wedding date twice and i wasn’t happy about it finally i said to my fiance it is my day i am not changing my mind and i am firm!, so we decided to get Married next march.
My mom is happy for us and he helping for some things, but his mom her reaction is hurtful. for the groomsmen they are wearing nice dress shirts and dress pants cheaper but still nice. my brides maids are buying there own dresses but from sears *good prices* and i am getting a grad style dress for myself that is under 500.00. But no matter what ideas i have for our wedding she tries to cheap it down, i understand saving money but this is my day and my money, and her reaction everytime i bring up the wedding or plans in distant and unintrested AND LIKE it doesnt even matter to her at all, he is the baby in his family it should they only have two sons.. and its hurting my feelings yes call me petty if you like but i would love for her to take an intrest in our special day.
everyone was over joyed when his brother got married they had a nice wedding in a church and a big hall nice meal etc.. but it seems like our special day means nothing to his family.. and its really hurtful.. what are some ways i can talk his mother about it and not feel so offended any advice would be helpful
My fiance says he is used to beign treated like this but i feel like he should not have to feel like the black sheep, and i feel like you only get married once they should give us some respect. I am getting the feeling they dont want us to get married… help
That is exactly how they treat us… when we offer to bring food to get togethers they say no thats ok or when we offered to buy my fiances neice a carseat when she was born no you cant afford that its like were not in poverty… thanks
don’t worry about it, just be as positive about it as you can and make your day as special as you can. when they see that their son is marrying an awesome chick they will be happy for them. money is tight for them maybe, and they don’t want to be landed with a big bill.
can you talk to them about it? say, "look, i feel like you are maybe not so enthusiastic about this, is it because you are worrying about money, because you don’t need to worry about money…or is it because you just don’t like me?"
put her on the spot and see what happens
BUT ABOVE ALL, BE super nice at ALL TIMES
TC | Mar 15, 2010
Of course they don’t want you to be married. I’ll never forget when I told my sister in law I was pregnant for the first time. Here I was expecting the words, "congratulations - WOW!" What did I get in response but, "what are you going to do?" It was like I told her I only had 3 days to live. It does hurt and in laws can be horrid. You want to keep them out of this as much as possible and not including them really. You can’t expect that you are ever going to make them happy because you have let them down entirely up until this point. For the most part, in laws only care about their traditions and keeping things the way they have always been. Get used to it - because it will get worse. It affects their relationship with your spouse and with your children. How can they show love and concern for your husband and kids when they can’t stand everything "you’ve done?" Yeah - it’s like after the kids got a little bigger they couldn’t understand why I wouldn’t want to include them in our lives by going to church with them and having them babysit and practically living at their house when they can’t stand me - it’s only obvious and always tell me how I’ve kept them from being the relatives they want to be. It’s so sad - but it’s not going to get better. We’ve been married 10 years now and it’s not getting better. The guy has to be worth it and he is so hang in there. You don’t want their money or their help. Who cares if you are the "black sheep." It’s better to have true love with your husband than care about what they think. You can’t expect anything from them. I don’t expect anything from my in laws anymore so when I do get something positive, anything positive, I feel simply overjoyed! You probably won’t get respect, so I’ve learned to be grateful that they tolerate our presence now and then. It’s like - yeah - you want their concern and love and to feel included but you haven’t earned it and guess what? you can’t! You are not the perfect person who followed all of their traditions and rules from the beginning. Your relationship is what it is and if they can’t accept that - it is truly their loss. It’s sad when this happens - but I’m so sorry it can’t be better for you. But, you just have to surround yourselves with positive people who really value your relationship and life together and try not to let them get you down. Yeah - I know - my in laws still tell us not to bring presents to family birthdays because they treat us like homeless people because we are not the upper middle class like the rest of the family. Then, they get upset when it’s our kids’ birthday and I say no presents please. I guess only a millionaire would have been good enough for their poor son who never picked a lucrative career. Oh well, I gave up on pleasing them long ago. Believe it or not - some of the in laws won’t step foot in our home because it’s "too small and not pleasing" enough! In other words - it’s not at least a half million dollar home with 10 bedrooms, 3 guestrooms, with televisions and cable in every room like them. Sorry for the rant, but yeah - it might not get better with time!
lisaclara | Mar 15, 2010
So why are you even trying to get these people involved if all they can do is be negative about your wedding? If you and your fiance are paying for everything yourselves, you don’t need any input from anyone. Focus on those members of your and his family who are happy for you and supportive of your plans, and stop trying to win over those who aren’t. You’re only going to run yourself into the ground trying to change toxic people, which - as you should know by now - is impossible.
Liz | Mar 15, 2010
I know how you feel! I’m with my fiance 8yrs and we decided to get married in sept, he told his dad who just said thats gonna cost a fortune! All his mom said is this person and that person must be invited! Neither his parents or his sister have even contacted me to say congrats or ask anything about the wedding! My response is screw them, let them turn up on the day knowing nowt about it and just treat them like any guest who wasn’t part of the planning!
Their probably worried he’ll look for money from them if they seem to think ye have nowt! DON’T ask them for a cent!! Ye are able to do it on yer own so do and let them suck it, just be super nice at all times and if they bring up the wedding, just say its all in hand nothing for them to worry about!
Saoirse | Mar 15, 2010
Your mistake is discussing any finances or cost of items…..don’t. If they bring up the subject….all you say is ‘We’ve got it covered." refuse to talk about it, none of anyone’s business anyway.
If your fiance is used to be treated this way then there’s nothing you can do to change it…it’s part of his family dynamics and it’s spilled over onto you-call it guilt by association. Just go about your business, Hon…you can’t change them so don’t try….if your family is supportive focus on them and the in laws are well, just the in laws….good luck.
Garnet Glitter | Mar 15, 2010
You know what, you can’t change people. I’d love for my mom to be interested in my wedding, but she isn’t. It hurts, but trying to force her isn’t going to fix it. So I just work with the people who are interested (in my case, my future in laws).
In your case, two things are happening: they know your financial situation and are worried for the outcome. Weddings start expensive and get impossible…fast. It’s easy for costs to add up. And having been around a few weddings I’m sure, they’re thinking they’re "helping".
The other thing is that your fiance has likely always been someone who was overlooked by his family. So instead of seeing him as a man, a father and soon a husband, they barely see him at all. It’s too bad, but there you have it. The best thing for you to do, is ignore them, and YOU give your husband the interest, love and respect he deserves. The only person you control her is you, and nothing you do will change them.
Good luck and congrats.
juvegirl, B2B 2010 | Mar 15, 2010
